Mrs B’s Story – Supporting carers in Knutsford

Is a 79 year old lady who is the sole carer for her 81 year old husband who has recently been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer’s. He found it very difficult to deal with the diagnosis and believed that he was mentally fit and well.  He couldn’t understand his wife’s concerns and reluctance to leave him unsupervised.

The situation became increasingly stressful for Mrs B, who could not find time for daily living tasks such as attending appointments, shopping or simply relaxing.

The couple’s three daughters can only offer limited support as they all live some distance away.  Mrs B keeps her anxiety and stress to herself, so as not to worry them.

On one occasion, Mrs B was having a particularly stressful day and, with prompting from her husband, decided to nip out to the local shop.  He assured her that he would be fine and not to worry so she rushed out quickly and returned home as soon as possible, only to find the front door open and Mr B was nowhere to be found.  After searching the house and the neighbourhood, the police were alerted and Mr B was found in a local park – an area that the couple often used to visit.  He was very upset and confused and had forgotten that he’d agreed to Mrs B nipping out.  The incident prompted a significant change in Mr B – his symptoms became more amplified and he became less able to manage simple everyday tasks.

Crossroads Care were able to help Mrs B by providing a regular three hour Carer Break for six weeks, allowing her to visit friends, attend appointments and generally relax.  Although initially reluctant to agree to this, Mr B finally agreed with some gentle persuasion.  He is supported on walks around the local lake, goes for drives and visits garden centres and now thoroughly enjoys the company of the carer support worker and considers this as ‘his time’.

Having the carer break has reduced Mrs B’s stress levels significantly.  Following the six week intervention, Crossroads have supported her to look for dementia support groups to enable her to meet with other people with similar experiences and frustrations and she has been signposted to the local Carers Centre, where she has been helped to apply for a carers’ personal budget.

Supported by Crossroads Care